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Oct 25

I need, I want, I love

heartWhen I was a teen and young adult there were a lot of things that I wanted. A big house, a luxury car, designer clothing, fancy perfume, you name it, I wanted it. Did I have any of those things? No! Well maybe the fancy perfume-“Gucci Envy” is totally “fancy” to a 16-year-old. Basically I wanted a lot of things that I didn’t really have growing up. Don’t get me wrong, I certainly wasn’t deprived as a child. I had everything I needed and most of what I wanted. From a young age, my parents taught us (I have two step-sisters) about the value of money and working hard.

By the time I was in 8th grade, I was making a little spending money babysitting in the neighborhood. That’s when my desire to buy “things” intensified. Thankfully, most people in my hometown in Downeast Maine don’t have big homes, luxury cars or designer clothing. Sure a few people have nice homes and Ralph Lauren sweaters, but most people (OK I can only speak for myself) didn’t know or care about Louis Vuitton, Yves St Laurent or Diane Von Furstenberg. In fact, I didn’t even know those particular brands existed (and were desirable) until I went away to college.

Now that I’m a little older and a little wiser, I realize that there are much more important and valuable things in life than fancy cars, Mc Mansions, and designer labels. To remind myself of the things that are really important I try to practice contentment in my day-to-day life. Basically, I just take a minute to remind myself of what I need, I want and I love.

Today here’s what that would look like:

christmas tree

Our first Christmas in our condo

I need: Basically nothing. Food: I have plenty of good quality food (and some convenience food that I probably shouldn’t be eating). Shelter: Bf and I are the proud owners mortgage holders of a lovely condo in a fun city. Clothing: I have far more clothing than I need. Income: I have a good job that provides stable income. Health: I have access to good health care if and when I need it. Obviously this is an abbreviated list, but you get the idea… I have many, many things to be thankful for.

I want: To take my grandparents on a vacation, to go on a monthly “date” with the bf so we stay connected and in-tune with each other. It doesn’t even have to be a date outside of our house-basically just a time set aside for us to unwind and enjoy each other like we used to do when we first started dating. To finish my course at school so that I can sit for my clinical licensure exam. And on a slightly more materialistic note, I do really like the Frye boots shown above. But I wouldn’t pay that much money for boots, so I’m looking for something similar in a lower price range.

boo dog

Who could look at this little face and not be in love?

I love: My family, my friends, my wonderful boyfriend, our growly dog and two loveable cats. Fall, pumpkins, apple cider and apple cider donuts, street fairs, farmer’s markets, handmade quilts on cool fall nights. The soothing click, click, click of my bamboo knitting needles. Thick raisin and cinnamon English muffins with homemade butter (ask me again why my weight has stayed the same for a month!).

Tell me what you need, want and love!

Image: ThePinkPeppercorn

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  1. Alicia @ Financial Diffraction

    I love Frye boots, but from afar. I have a little bit of a love affair with them where whenever I go into a shop I pick them up, stroke them and then go “no, Alicia you can’t buy $400 boots, no matter how amazing the leather feels”.

    Needs: all my bases are covered on this one. I have love, a roof over my head, food in my fridge.

    Wants: a solid wood bedroom set rather than my mattress on the floor, and furniture from when I was two.

    Love: so many things/people. my family, friends, my feline friends, a good book to curl up with on a toasty, cozy day. I love chunky knit sweaters and good cups of coffee or tea. I love too many kinds of food to even mention really.

    1. KK

      You’re totally cracking me up with the boots comment because If feel the same way and can absolutely envision myself stroking the boots then pouting as I walk away lol. If it weren’t for bf, I’d still have most of my post-college thrift store furniture.

  2. E.M.

    I don’t need much, either. I have an apartment, food/water, too many clothes, income and love.

    I want a new laptop, but I am not sure I can really justify the cost right now. Ideally I’d like to spend less than $500 but still get quality. I also want a new pair of boots, but something affordable, around $30 (wishful thinking?).

    I love my family, my boyfriend, my cats, hoodies, fall weather and scenery, cuddling up in bed with a book, and the weekends!

    This was a cute idea =).

    1. KK

      When you find the $30 boots please let me know! I’m always on the search for inexpensive boots (found a pair of “born” boots on clearance a few years back for about $40. They were really well made and good quality-only problem one of the zipper pulls was broken (but the zipper still worked just fine).

  3. Kyle | Rather-Be-Shopping.com

    You have a kick-ass attitude KK.

    The things I need include food in my belly which I have plenty of as my wife is an amazing cook even though I think she might be fattening me u for winter…

    Things I love include spending time with my kids and friends

    Things I want, um not much, maybe a new digital camera as the one I have actually smokes when the flash goes off…

    1. KK

      Thanks Kyle 🙂 Smokes when the flash goes off, that is bad! I didn’t even know that could happen aside from those cameras from the wild wild west that you see in movies.

  4. Erin @ My Alternate Life

    Great idea for a post!

    Needs: I have everything I need! Shelter, food, water, air, love. Oh, and coffee.

    Wants: I really would like to have some furniture, particularly a dresser and a bed (currently sleeping on a mattress on the floor). A vacation fund.

    Love: My awesome husband, my amazing family and friends, my Kindle, a Netflix marathon with the aforementioned awesome husband, and working as a freelance writer :).

    1. KK

      I was really lucky that bf had a super nice bed set (bed and nightstands) when I moved in with him at our first apartment. We still have it and it’s gorgeous. I’m glad he bought it before he met me because I’m way to cheap to spend as much as he spent on the set. We’ll probably have it until we die because furniture is so expensive.

  5. Kendal @HassleFreeSaver

    Those Frye boots are fab! I love this post because I’ve been thinking a lot about needs and wants lately, trying to reignite my desire for what I have and place less emphasis on what I want. My issues reside mostly with material things — I’m a hopeless fashion addict but am really trying to make new looks and styles from what I already own. I’m also trying to show gratitude and support to all the people in my life who I love the most — so important!

    1. KK

      Aren’t they? I don’t usually like short boots (on myself) they are cute on other people, but I love those. I really hope I can find a cheaper version somewhere else. Fashion can be a lot of fun, but so expensive to keep up with. That’s probably why I stick with really basic interchangeable pieces.

  6. Girl Meets Debt

    Needs: Like you I have everything I need in my life.

    Wants: to pay off my debt as soon as possible and to plan a nice wedding for 2015 without going into debt. I also want a chocolate brown lab puppy 😀

    Loves: J, my family, my family dog, my cat, friends, weekends, Christmas, this list could go on an on 😀

    1. KK

      I’ll be so excited when you get the puppy! Labs are so adorable and pets are good practice for kids (from what I’m told). I can totally tell the type of dad, bf will be based on how sweet he is with our pets. I think bf and I might go home for Christmas, so that’s something I’m excited about too!

  7. Jordann

    This is a lovely post! It’s nice to be reminded about what’s important.

    1. KK

      Thanks Jordann, it was a lot of fun to write (and to think about). Little things like this keep me grounded.

  8. Budget and the Beach

    I love this! I need probably more freelance work, but I’m grateful for what I do have. I want probably a few cute items of clothes and more travel. I love my friends, family, cat, good health, etc.

    1. KK

      More work is always a good thing (especially when you work for yourself). More travel is definitely something that I’d like to work into our budget over the next year. I’m super excited to see photos and hear stories about your upcoming Iceland trip!

  9. anna

    Those boots are cute! Though I agree Frye is too rich for my blood, at least for now. I need the basic essentials to living, I want to get rid of my debt (soon enough!) as well as pick up some new business clothes, and I love my loved ones, B, and the PF community. Great post and reminder for staying positive, KK!

    1. KK

      Getting rid of debt was definitely on my needs/wants for a long time. Once that came off the list it freed up so much money in my budget and so much mental space to be able to focus on contentment and being happy with what I had.

  10. DC @ Young Adult Money

    Great post! Need is health care, food, shelter. Want: a big, beautiful house that is paid for, four kids (at least half adopted!) and a job that I love. Love: My wife,Family, friends, and seeing people live fulfilling lives.

    1. KK

      You’re gonna need a big house for four kiddos! I love that you want to adopt. It’s something that bf and I have casually talked about. I would love to adopt.

  11. Laurie @thefrugalfarmer

    Awww, great post, KK! Love those boots too! I wish we lived closer so we could be “on call” babysitters for Brooklyn. He’s so adorable!

    I need: nothing, when I truly think about it. I’ve got a wonderful family, a warm home, plenty to eat, and much more.

    I want: Debt to be gone, of course, and the financial ability for hubs to retire when he chooses, and a bigger house.

    I love: my gracious, loving God, my wonderful, awesome family, and watching the glory of life all around us. We saw this in kittens being born on the farm this spring, and are witnessing it now as one of my BFFs is in labor this morning with her sixth child. The gift of life truly is amazing!

    1. KK

      Brooklyn is actually the reason we haven’t really traveled until now (that sounds strange and somewhat pathetic, but until recently we couldn’t find anybody that we trusted enough to watch him. We have a wonderful dog walker, but she’s the only one that he trusts and she doesn’t do overnight care). He’s a rescue and has some fear aggression issues and a lot of people are afraid of him. My dear friend Molly has volunteered to watch him and stay in our house for our trip with my grandparents, it’s the only way we can go, so I’m super grateful to her. If you ever move to the NYC area we would love to have you as a sitter, I know you’re “animal people” and that makes a world of difference to me 🙂

      Congrats to your BFF! What a blessing. Hope she and baby are happy and healthy!

      1. Laurie @thefrugalfarmer

        Oh, that sweet dog. It makes me so angry when people hurt animals (or people!), leaving them with trust issues. Thanks for the congrats for my BFF. Baby boy (number 5!) came Saturday at about 11:30am, and both mom and her beautiful son are doing wonderfully. 🙂

  12. Stefanie @ The Broke and Beautiful Life

    I struggle with some of the “needs”, which is why sometimes I have difficulty practicing gratitude and contentment (though I have a lot to be grateful for). My income is not enough to live on and I don’t have access to affordable heatlhcare- but I’m rising to the challenge to create more income and more opportunity for myself to meet those needs.

    1. KK

      When you’re struggling with needs, it’s definitely hard to focus on anything else. But you’ve got the right attitude, so I know things are going to work out for you. Sending positive vibes your way, that soon you’re able to start thinking about your wants!

  13. Ajaveen

    KK this post is right on time.

    I have my needs met. I live in a decent apartment. I have food,
    water, lots of clothes & shoes.

    I love my family, my beau, my job.

    Things I want….hmm I would like to have an iPad but its
    I am not willingly to pay the high price for one. Layway would
    be an option:-)

    1. KK

      Loving your job is really a blessing. So many people I know hate their jobs, so if you like your job and you’re happy that makes a world of difference in your day to day life. Bf has an iPad and he uses it a lot on the train and at home. He actually won his at his company’s Christmas party a couple years ago-how lucky is he? I told him to buy a lottery ticket that night “just in case” 😉

  14. Ajaveen

    I almost forgot I want student loan to be paid off as soon as possible.

    1. KK

      That does my “Student Debt Survivor” heart good! 🙂 Keep fighting those loans and you’ll be a “survivor” before you know it!

  15. Charles@gettingarichlife

    I’m simple give me my beers and good food and I’m done. The one thing I’ve been bad at is making time to see my friends as I don’t want to drift apart.

  16. Lisa E. @ Lisa Vs. The Loans

    I love this!!

    I need: the basics. (food, shelter, etc.)

    I want: to have more experiences (vacations, concerts, massages)

    I love: my family, BF, and friends!

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