In Honor of Valentine’s Day, Date the Boss to Get Ahead. Ok, that’s not exactly what I mean, but stay with me…
During a recent manager’s training with my HR Director, a co-worker compared the job interview/hiring process to courting (you know, dating for anyone born after 1900). Here are some of the interesting similarities that we ended up discussing:
Pleasantries-On the first date you exchange pleasantries and small talk. Don’t offer too much about your past lovers or their issues. Similarly, during an interview, you shouldn’t give your future boss too much information about your past co-workers or bosses. The bad things you say about them may reflect poorly on you and your ability to maintain interpersonal relationships with others. After your date bashes three of his exs, stating how, “crazy” and, “neurotic” they were, you start to wonder if he’s the, one with problem, right?
Getting to know each other-I ask you a few questions, you ask me a few questions. During the interview you’re both getting to know each other. You’re learning about the types of things you both like and dislike in a work relationship and trying to determine whether the employer/employee relationship is going to be a good fit. Make sure to ask questions about, “deal breakers”. If you want kids and he doesn’t (in a dating scenario) or airline travel is required and the interviewee is terrified of flying you need to know that so you don’t waste each others’ time.
Sex on the First Date-Save intimacy for later in the relationship. Don’t rush in. You’re both on your best behavior during the first date. Likewise, the very best and most professional behavior you’ll ever see from your employee will take place during the interview. If he or she does or says something questionable during the interview, imagine what he’ll be like 3 months after you hire him. Scary, right?
So What Do You Think, Ready to “Date” Your Future Boss? Have Experience as the “Courter” or the “Courtee”?